I love a good selfie just when it’s not me that’s in it! There has been much written about selfies and whether they are empowering or just narcisistic. Our first response might be to think that a selfie is narcissism in its worst form. The most self-centered use of social media that screams “look at me”. You might say that it is just superficial after all a selfie invites you to be judged purely on how you look.
But selfies have also been used for good causes. There were the selfies to raise cancer awareness; these involved no make-up, smudged lipstick and balls (no I’m not talking the bouncy kind, i’m talking testicles). So the selfie can help save lives and therefore can be used for good but can the selfie ever be empowering? Both genders like to take selfies but a recent survey carried out by Feelunique.com revealed that the average 16-25 year old woman will spend more than 5 hours a week taking selfies. First of all I am jealous that they have 5 hours a week.
All. To. Themselves.
But secondly this does not sound very empowering, this sounds more like boredom or even desperation. If I had 5 hours a week to play with I can think of much more enjoyable things that I would rather be doing.
Selfies are very popular with teenage girls with them reporting that they find it uplifting, stating that seeing their images on social media boosted their confidence. However social media also been shown to cause self-esteem issues in teenagers, making them self-conscious and giving them unrealistic expectations for how they should look. Take the Kardishians and their endless selfies of them using their waistline trainers. Now don’t get me wrong I love the Kardashians but because of them teenage girls are now buying these hideous waistline trainer contraptions. Teenage girls now want to have the tiny waists that Khloe and co have. They now think it is normal to wear a device that squashes your lung and ribs making it difficult to breathe.
That isn’t normal, that’s just dangerous.
So selfies can be dangerous, morale destroying and time consuming but on the other hand they can raise money, raise awareness and boost self esteem. They can also be inspiring. A classic example of this is Chloe Madeley, the selfie Queen who has documented her body transformation through instagram. She proudly displays the body that she has created as a result of her hard work and her taking a selfie is just another way of her demonstrating that she is the one in control. She has been trolled for her love of selfies but she doesn’t let it stop her.
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Chloe is putting out a real message through her selfies unlike the Kardashians and their crazy waist trainer. Chloe’s selfies are a dose of realisim, showing us that it takes a lot of dedication but giving us something to aspire to. Chloe will often be accused of oversharing and being narcissistic and I wonder if her boyfriend (who also loves a good selfie) ever suffers from the same accusations. I doubt it because it does seem that when a woman takes a selfie she is much more likely to be dismissed as narcissistic where as when a man takes a selfie it doesn’t garner the same negative reaction from the
very male dominated media.
The issues of selfies is a complex one but I think we realise that it is much deeper than narcissism. There are many positives to selfies and they can be used as the ultimate feminist statement. Women like Chloe Madeley are using the selfie to promote themselves. Chloe and her selfies are an emblem for women taking control.
The selfie could also be seen as an art form as it is self-portrait in its purest form.The selfie is the next step on from Pablo Picasso’s self portrait facing death or Hockney’s self potrait with Charlie. Like these famous works of art a selfie can connect with people emotionally and as a result the artist (selfie taker) has a responsbility to its audience to be clear in its purpose and to think about what they are really conveying. When you are taking a selfie you are an artist inviting people into your gallery to admire your work.
The Kardashians might want to remember that next time they take a selfie with a waistline trimmer on because at the moment they could be accused of being very selfie-ish.


Great post, I have never really thought about selfies this way before. I have no problem with other people taking them, I rarely do myself just because I don’t like photos of myself enough for my face to be all over my social media. I do think it is very irresponsible of celebrities like the Kardashian’s posting pictures of themselves wearing these slimming contraptions, sets impossible goals for young girls and gives boys unrealistic expectations of a woman’s body. I think the selfie charity campaigns are great though, I took part in the no make up one and my hubby did the c*ck in a sock one!xx #BloggerClubUK
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I think it’s great that selfies are used to raise money and awareness but like you I don’t take any of myself. Perhaps I should start!
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I don’t see selfies as anything more than people taking pictures of themselves to know how they look. They post it to get approval by society, which is okay. Human beings are social animals and we need approval from others to feel good. The only people who think ‘strong and independent’ makes you happy are megalomaniacs.
The question is, are there other ways to gain approval? What happens when people (especially teenagers) think there’s no better way to gain approval by society except by posting selfies?
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Very interesting point. I would hope that people realise that there are better ways to gain approval from society. However, I also think that this might not be the case for all teenagers who are more influenced by what they see on social media and as result they can become depressed if they don’t get the approval that they are seeking.
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Interesting read! I’m not a great selfie taker, and it’s rare for me to appear in person on my Instagram feed. But I did find it interesting that statistic that girls are spending 5 hours a day taking selfies! Which does chime in with my husband’s view of Instagram that it’s all teenage girls posing in selfies - I thought it was all women taking photos of artfully arranged flowers and flat lays, but I guess as a middle aged woman I’m not likely to follow many selfie taking girls!
It comes down to the intention of the person posting the photo I guess - if they’re posting it for the approval of others rather than taking control themselves and feeling empowered, then that’s only going to be a negative cycle to get caught up in. Probably too complex a debate to go into when I’m sat in bed with a fever and brain is not functioning too well!
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Oh no I hope that you feel better soon. I know what you mean thinking that instagram was pretty pictures of flat lays as that’s what I thought too! I do love a pretty instagram feed full of flat lays and flowers though :-)
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Great post! Reeling from that 5 hours a week statistic! I love a selfie when it’s me and a friend or my son (does that count? Is that actually a ‘groupie’, a ‘pairy’ lol?) but don’t partake in many of just myself, mainly because I can never get a flattering angle. And to be honest because I don’t see the point unless it’s for a specific reason. Thanks for sharing #brillblogpost
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I know 5 whole hours-a week. What you could do with a 5 spare hours, I would catch-up on sleep for starters. Also I think we can call a pairy selfie. :-)
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FIVE HOURS a week! Oh my gosh, I can’t believe that number! How do they have that kind of time? Well, now that I’m thinking about it - I suppose to take one of these famous looking selfies they’d have to get all the makeup on & clothes, hair done etc & that would take a while in prep time. I didn’t know the Kardashians wore waist cinchers - that’s a terrible message to send their fans! Thanks so much for sharing with #bloggerclubuk x
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